It is wrong to silence survivors of abuse

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As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and in honour of some of my followers who are also survivors of abuse, I want to do a short but very important post today about the unfortunate shaming & silencing that happens to survivors.

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It is absolutely horrendous to deny someone of their right to freely talk about their abuse and to deny them the ability to heal.Every time a survivor talks about the abuse to someone who validates them and acknowledges their pain, there is a small layer of healing taking place.

On the other hand, every time a survivor shares their story and isn’t believed, is shamed for not forgiving their abuser or is told to not go public about their abuse, it is destructive & extremely painful. It shows that the person shaming the survivor lacks empathy & understanding for the pain & trauma they have been through. It is…

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4 thoughts on “It is wrong to silence survivors of abuse

  1. I personally have experienced the pain from opening up about my childhood sexual abuse by my own father. It went on for years, and I couldn’t tell no one, for fear of the consequences for speaking out. I am glad to say that I have been able to open up more, to my therapists, and through my writings and interactions with other survivors, and it has been and still is a great healing process. It (he) no longer holds power over me, but I still have a long road ahead of me.

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  2. Silencing survivors compounds our sense of learned helplessness and gets in the way of healing. Abuse takes place in silence and it’s so important for us to find our voice. I was silenced for 50 years until my mother died in May. I am now liberated and able to talk openly about what happened. I pray others will find their voice as well.

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