So as some of you have read, I just completed my Certificate in Coaching course 3 days ago! It was an intensive course approved by The British Psychological society and was delivered by 2 very helpful, professional and kind tutors, both working in coaching and psychology.
With every big or small change in life we experience stress, apprehension and a general feeling of wonder. Will it be what I want it to be? Will it open new doors? Will it be the right decision? Will I be happy? This is pretty normal for us humans and even if the change is positive, there is still a feeling of apprehension.
Before I booked the course, I was looking at it as an alternative to another career choice but now I must admit that I am very hopeful I can make a success of it.
The thing I loved the most about it, is that this coaching certificate was with a focus on Cognitive Behavioural models, which tackle problem areas such as unhelpful thinking, anxiety, procastination, perfectionism, being criticised and many more. Flawed thinking can lead to a lot of emotional, behavioural and physical difficulties, so to ignore one’s thinking would be missing a very important part of a successful coaching session.
Most coaching models focus on problem solving, like ‘how do I get from A to B’, or ‘how do I reach a certain goal in regards to life, work or my health’. The role of the coach is to facilitate and help the client unlock their own thinking blocks and to problem solve in a useful way. With the use of different techniques, tables and coaching models the client learns to ‘coach themselves’. If a problem isn’t straighforward and there is an underlying emotional problem that is stopping the client from reaching their goal, then the coach will apply a different set of techniques to tackle the emotional problem first and will then return to the behavioural problem solving as originally attempted.
A big part of my training was applying theory to practice on myself and other delegates. I practiced the models as a coach and as a coachee. It was very insightful to see how much I could help someone with a problem they were facing and also how much the models helped me solve my own problems in a more sensible way.
Humans are all fallible and the thing we seem to be great at is creating problems for ourselves, when there is really no need!
In regards to the title of this blog post, humans shouldn’t just be surviving..We should all be allowed the opportunity to change things for the better and thrive. Through coaching myself and others, I have managed to open so many new doors to mine and others’ thinking.. it really is rather exciting.
Most importantly, apart from the fact that coaches use a certain framework in their work with clients, it is crucial that they are also empathetic, have unconditional positive regard towards the client and truly believe that their client can change. A client has to feel comfortable in the presence of their coach and rapport is very important.